Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls

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Binding: Paperback Dewey Decimal Number: 302.5408342 Format: Bargain Price Label: Harvest Books Manufacturer: Harvest Books Number Of Items: 1 Number Of Pages: 320 Publication Date: 2003-04-01 Publisher: Harvest Books Studio: Harvest Books
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Editorial Reviews: When boys act out, get into fights, or become physically aggressive, we can't avoid noticing their bad behavior. But it is easy to miss the subtle signs of aggression in girls--the dirty looks, the taunting notes, or the exclusion from the group-that send girls home crying. In Odd Girl Out, Rachel Simmons focuses on these interactions and provides language for the indirect aggression that runs through the lives and friendships of girls. These exchanges take place within intimate circles--the importance of friends and the fear of losing them is key. Without the cultural consent to express their anger or to resolve their conflicts, girls express their aggression in covert but damaging ways. Every generation of women can tell stories of being bullied, but Odd Girl Out explores and explains these experiences for the first time. Journalist Rachel Simmons sheds light on destructive patterns that need our attention. With advice for girls, parents, teachers, and even school administrators, Odd Girl Out is a groundbreaking work that every woman will agree is long overdue.
Spotlight customer reviews: Customer Rating: Summary: Trip Down Memory Lane Comment: Rachel Simmons shines the light on girl aggression/bullying and it can no longer slip under the radar in our schools. When and how are we doing to stop girl bullying in our schools? Simmons writes about her own familiarity with bullying. She also includes a variety of stories from different girls/women's experiences with bullying. There is no pretty pink coating to go over the reality of what is happening in our schools and from what I have come to understand, will continue at an intensified level in the future. I saw myself in several of the different side stories included in the book. It would probably be hard for any woman to read this book and not relate to at least five or six of the small stories held within. This book would be a great read aloud for a group of older girls or you could pull some parts to read to a younger group of girls in order to start a discussion on bullying. Mothers and fathers may also find this book to be helpful when confronted with bullying in their daughters lives. Not only does this book give detailed examples of how some girls were/are bullied, it also provides ways to tell if your daughter or loved one is being bullied. It helps a person look for signs and then explains how to address the issues of bullying with girls. As a teacher, I was able to reflect at how I can better handle girl aggression in my classroom. Simmons gives great advice on how to talk to a group of girls about bullying in the classroom. I would be interested if Simmons decided to write a follow up on how some of the girls interviewed are doing in 10 years and to see what they have to say in the future about bullying. Customer Rating: Summary: A must read for parents and teachers Comment: Odd Girl Out- the Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls by Rachel Simmons is a MUST-READ book for teachers and parents of girls. "Girls can be mean" is a common statement that is made when observing girls interacting with each other. Odd Girl Out helps identify why girls can be so mean without the typical outward signs of anger. Rachel Simmons provides an illustration of the many alternative aggressions that typically "nice and sweet" girls use as they grow-up. After reading this book, as a female teacher, I was reminded about bullying that I had encountered throughout my education, and I was able to see examples of the bullying that has and is taking place in my classroom. As females, we typically do not recognize that bullying is occurring because of the use of alternative aggressions. In fact, after listening to a guidance lesson, the alternative aggressions that are explained and illustrated in this book are even typically ignored. After one reads this book, you feel better prepared to create a safer and more understanding environment for any of your female students. Since I have read this book, I feel better about intervening on the behalf of some of my students. I also see where in the past I have excused the bully for the same reasons that Rachel Simmons discusses in her book. As a parent, I could see the need to eventually share my own stories with my daughter. Many of the girls in this story mentioned being ashamed and alone while they had to deal with the bullying. Being aware of what your children are experiencing will help you become a better and more-informed parent. This book is not an easy read; you cannot sit down and read the entire book within a short amount of time without some heavy thinking. The way the author set up and shares the different stories throughout the book gets a little confusing. However, the multiple stories easily allow the reader to personally connect to the book. Reading this book is not a quick-fix solution, but more-or-less allows the reader to gain insight into the aggression that girls show other girls. Teachers and parents are given some feedback and potential ways to help the students who are at the center of the aggressions. Customer Rating: Summary: Not so great Comment: I bought this book a few years ago and had to force myself to finish it. It's definitely not as great as it is made out to be. A lot of it is common sense, and Simmons repeats things over and over as the book goes on. There are a few good little anecdotes, but other than that this just isn't worth it. Customer Rating: Summary: must read for youth workers and parents Comment: i'm not sure how i missed this book. it was published in 2002, and is absolute must reading for EVERY youth worker (male or female) and every parent of a girl. it's a tough read and an easy read. easy, because simmons is an excellent writer and fills the book with real stories of real girls. tough, because the real girls she profiles reveal a profile of aggression (almost universally experienced) that is so painful, so destructive, it's difficult to read (especially if you care about teenage girls). i had a great chat with my 13 year-old daughter, liesl, after reading this book. she was very open about how girls treat each other. i may be fooling myself, but i do think that liesl's private school (a waldorf school, which is particularly nurturing and has no tolerance for mistreatment) protects her from the fullest extent of what this behavior would look like in the vast majority of schools. in fact, i could easily see liesl being the aggressor (the rumor-creator, the silent treatment-giver, the "we don't like you" club-originator), were she in a different context. the book talks at length about why this alternative aggression is so commonplace amongst girls. it also talks about why schools are so poor at addressing it. it's a bit light on suggestions for what we all (who care about girls) can do about it - but there is some of this, especially near the end of the book. given my passion for early adolescent ministry, i was intrigued to read that this behavior is at its peak during the young teen years. the author focuses all of her research on girls from 5th grade through 9th grade, with the "sweet spot" (bad choice of words, i suppose) between 11 and 14. here's one particular paragraph i found fascinating: at first glance, the stories of girls not being allowed to eat at the lunch table, attend a party, put their sleeping bag in the middle, or squeeze inside a circle of giggling girls may seem childish. yet as carol gilligan has shown, relationships play an unusually important role in girls' social development. in her work with girls and boys, she found that girls perceive danger in their lives as isolation, especially the fear that by standing out they will be abandoned. boys, however, describe danger as a fear of entrapment or smothering. this contrast, gilligan argues, shows that women's development "points toward a diffrerent history of human attachment, stressing continuity and change instead of replacement and seperation. the primacy of relationship and attachment in the female life also indicates a different experience of and response to loss. the centrallity of relationship to girls' lives all but guarantees a different landscape of aggression and bullying, with its own distinctive features worthy of seperate study. Customer Rating: Summary: A Must-Read Book 4 Adolescent Girls and Parents Comment: Every girl from age 1O up and her parent should read this book so they understand what is in store for them in middle, junior high and high school. Rachel Simmons beautifully describes the unique bully culture of girls present on every school campus. It is so important for girls to understand this phenomenon so they are prepared and don't unknowingly become victims.If you have a daughter...it is a must-read for a parent. It provides an excellent understanding of how to prevent it and intervene to stop it. It is a must-read for parents of all kids who are about to enter school. More Reviews